You've been doing this for awhile, so your not a newbie, you know alot more things about DBing and yourself. So while I'd refrain normally from telling a new poster to engage in an R talk, in your case?
What is a realationship talk going to hurt?
If the status quo is GOOD you do not want to upset it.
If the status quo is BAD? Why wouldn't you want to upset it?
You're thinking divorce and not in the I just got here knee jerk reaction sort of way. So, if you are there...what do you have to lose by trying new approaches?
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK
The advice above is for Fixer, who has been here a good spell, not recommended for anyone who first shows up here, or has only been doing this a short while.
You might think you're different, like a beautiful snowflake, and yes, you are just like all the million other snowflakes. Individual, but all in the same situation.
Experience is a brutal teacher, but you learn. My God, do you learn. - C.S. Lewis
Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B. - Jack3Beans
Listen without defending; Speak without offending - FaithinAK