Got and read some of those book on adult children of alcoholics. Explains some of my situation. Also explains why wife would rather poke her eyes out than have a OR talk or, worse yet, a session with a therapist. Went back and read MWDs books afterwards and agree with Jack3Beans that the DBing should work for us - in fact it might really be the only approach that has a chance. Still very concerned about W and her boss. Things at our house are chaotic - spent the evening extracting a lego from youngest son's sinus cavity (have no idea how that happened! - and boss is making the workday fun, fun, fun.
Going to work on setting boundaries and not reacting to every up and down, staying busy. It's a bit out of my hands....
