My husband does this. He also had an apartment and didn't move out for 3 weeks. I can't tell you why they do this. I wish that I could so that I could have answers of my own.
My husband is kind and attentive one minute and the next minute, he's distant again. All I can say, is that they are clearly going through their own issues and confusion. They are no different than us. One minute, I feel strong and feel like I can do this, the next, not so much.
The only thing that seems to work is to have a consistent attitude no matter what. They will often follow our moods, so we must remain upbeat regardless of what they are doing. It helps if we find stuff in our lives to be upbeat about.
I wish I had answers for you, Sad. I know that this whole thing kind of leaves you raw. I'm praying for you.
