Another thing Sparks...

Leave your expectations at the door.

Do not expect too much too soon with her. This may take a good while to sort out since her main problems seem to be sexual orientation.

The therapist should keep that in focus. If not, there may be things said that have no credibility for you, yet present blame to you.

Own the things you need to own, and listen and validate the ones you do not own.

Don't try to defend yourself too much, and remember...

Whatever she says....

Those are her feelings, and her truths....

You cannot change that through words, only consistent actions that match your words...

The best therapy sessions seem to be the ones that "hurt" the most walking out....