any ideas of how i should approach couples therapy tonight?
Do you trust the therapist ?
I am pretty sure I do. We have only met her a few times, but she has been pretty positive. Even when I called her and spoke to her on the phone to tell her my wife agreed to therapy, we talked for a bit about where I was in my decision making and how I felt. I told her everything that you guys know as far as my attitude and path. She was one of the people that applauded my attitude during a time where the opposite could come out. She understands that I love my wife and working to save my marriage. My wife might not be in the corner yet with me, but I hope this communication could eventually get there.
My wife was actually a little concerned before our first session since the affair news last week. She was afraid that I already built a relationship with this therapist and we were going to team up on her. The therapist put my wife's mind at ease several times in our session by simply telling my wife exactly what I had told my therapist about my intentions. The therapist couldn't have handled it better, and my wife warmed up to the thought of having a safe place for us to discuss our relationship as well as the relationship with our son.
So in a nutshell, yes. I do trust our couples therapist.
Do I trust her personal therapist? Now that is a whole other topic of discussion.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
