I have read through your sitch. I think you have a good grasp on DB principals, but I am wondering what your goal actually is...
Do you really feel the principals of DB in your core?
Do you believe in the changes that you are making and that you need to make them, in order to become a better person?
OR...
Do you see them as a way to get one over on your wife?
To get the upper hand in a crappy situation?
Personally, I see it as the latter...
You are using the techniques correctly and getting results but I don't believe for one second that if she were to come back, that it would really be different...
Other than you have DB techniques in your pocket and can control the situation better...
You use words and phrases like "a shot over the bow", "warning", "permission", "allowed" and the list goes on...
You have a sense of superiority to your W because of DB, that comes through in your posts, so it probably comes through to her as well.
DB, are techniques to help you save your M. I won't disagree with that.
More importantly, they are a way to help you improve you. So that you will be a better person. Someone that your W or any other woman will want to be with.
It isn't something to do to simply win...
because this isn't a game...
it is your life.
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
