Drive The Bus, Or Be The Passenger?

[Kemper]

Lotus,

Thank you for your insight and the additional information about finding a new love. Being together 31 years is a huge accomplishment and you should be proud of that.

Journaling:
I find my W and I falling into destructive patterns and I am just as much at fault as she is. After a situation occurs I can analyze the scenario and see where I retreat and stonewall. Neither of us are good about putting our hurt feelings aside and talking about them. I am hoping that Retro can help us improve our communication skills.

Sadly there are times when I look at Retro as a last ditch effort. There are times when I just want to throw in the towel and say screw it. Sometimes I think that it would just be better to start my life over and move forward. Other times I look back over the past few years and think if we made it through that we can make it through anything.

At this point I am of the mindset that Retro is a last ditch effort and if things don't improve then I will make the decision to move forward alone.