Hi and welcome to the community. Stay with us and post everyday. The more details you can give, the better we can help.
You said your W doesn't know that you know. Are you refering to the A or the bi-polar? Is she taking medication?
Has the A turned physical or is it an EA?
There is neccessarily anything wrong with you just b/c this has happen in both M's. We do, however, encourage the LBS to take a good hard look at what they might not be doing that their S needed. Then we encourage the LBS to make goals and to work at being a much better person.
You need to have a plan of action. Before you make a plan, you need to know what you are able to live with.....and what you can't. You need to know what is most important and what lengths you will go in a R.
It's a step-by-step, day-by-day progress.....and most men think they can't do that b/c they want to "fix" the W and get things back to how it use to be. But, they soon learn they can do it if they keep their eyes on the goal.
Your M can be saved, but it won't be overnight.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
