You are one smart thinking lady - nice move in getting him your email address. Hope you don't mind if I "borrow" that technique sometime in the future!
I just have to say, I appreciate the fact that all the foot-fetish guys are up front by mentioning something about feet in their profiles! I cross them and the conservative religious ones right off my list!
So - guy I had coffee with a while back texts me on Friday, and says he'll call me Sunday to make plans to get together this week. He doesn't call Sunday night - no biggie, I'm thinking it's Superbowl and everything.
FIRST thing this morning he texts me, to let me know he got busy with a sick kid, and he'll call me later this week.
And you know what? It was SO SO nice, THAT'S how a guy behaves when he's actually interested in you. He actually keeps his word and follows up! I've been missing that!
Kml - Yes it is all about consideration for the other person and it really doesn't take a lot of effort to do that but it seems to be so hard for some people to do. I am happy for you!!
So after three past Valentine Day's which were meaningless, depressing and absolutely forgettable - I am finally looking forward to celebrate it again with someone who is becoming special in my life!
I think consideration is something you have to make it known you ëxpect - for what it's worth. Even Josh was a little casual about making phone calls when he said he would (in the beginning). I called him on it more than once (I was still in a fairly "fragile" place). Then one time I just threw caution to the wind when he didn't call (about 4 months in) and made plans the next couple of nights so I wasn't home to take his call. That got his attention. When he finally did catch up with me I just let him know that I had been here as planned on "phone night"but I did not intend to sit around waiting for him. He got the message and never ever missed a call or didn't message to let me know why. So - I took a risk but it was worth it. I did not want to be with anyone who didn't consider what I was doing with my time.
So.......much-too-young guy, who disappeared in the beginning of January without a word? Showed back up today!
The good news - kind of sweetly apologetic, and still as clever and cute as I remember him. Weird as it is, I had really missed him and was glad to see him.
The bad news - the reason for his absence was a bout of depression that caused him to "go turtle". My unerring gift for picking depressed guys is apparently still intact.
Hey all! trying to get back out there too.If not online dating then what? Church ? grocerie store? I havn't had much luck in dating women closer to my age(47).I've dated a couple gals in there 30's with small children and it just seems like they have so much going on.My youngest is 16 and lives between his moms place and mine.Havn't really had a second date with anyone closer to my age.I've experienced the 20 question kind of date a few times and the 10 year old pic on the dating site thing.I have to agree that meeting someone and getting to know them outside of the dating site expectation would be nice.I live in Michigan so winter time is not my favorite season to be out and about.Any ideas for activities to meet singles?
Jeff
M 44 W 40 D 21 S 14 Married 20yrs Together 23yrs Bomb on 5/14/08 discovered OM W moved out 5/17/08 w filed for D Feb 09 D final 10/18/09
If you are good with some kind of handy thing you could maybe offer a class. I know women are interested in being able to do some minor repairs on cars or around the house. Especially since there are so many of us that are now single. Lucky me, I was already the one trying to fix things without his help.
Just an idea.
kat
Me-53(and learning!) S24, S21, D18, D17 Just keep swimming, Just keep swimming. Dory
I got a Valentine's text from the 33 year old; go figure!
Jeff, I joined meetup.com groups and attend social events with as many different ones as I can. I agree, it's tough to meet decent men/women our age, but I know they're out there!!
Me 55 H 49 Married 21 years No kids bomb 5/09 filed 7/09 divorced and moving forward 5/10
