grr - Bolt, 2Step and Gypsy are right on with what they are telling you. This is tough stuff and you haven't been doing it for very long. I know that you did it before, but you have to relearn and retrain yourself. The backsliding is to be expected at first. Don't beat yourself up. I think that Bolt's idea about daily goals is a fantastic idea.
Now for the 2x4... I'm sorry grr, but I wouldn't be your friend if I didn't... You've got to relearn and retrain yourself quickly. Every time you backslide, you take 2 steps back (no pun intended) with your DBing efforts. You CAN do this grr!! I've seen it in the past couple of weeks. You CAN!
You have to focus EVERY time that you see or contact your H. There is no other way to put this. You have to. You know it. I know that you do.
Now get your head up, and go do it!
BITS!! Denver
P.S. I really liked when you said earlier that you had to go make yourself 'hot' earlier! That's the attitude! You DB'd me and I've never even met you!!!
M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce