Islander, I am not going to lie to you, the lunch will be tough. You will probably want to vomit at some point and you will more than likely leave an emotional wreck. But never let her see any of that, OK??? Denver is the expert right now, so listen to him. Treat that lunch like you were eating with an old college roommate. If she tries to argue, don't take the bait. NO talk about the future or the OM.

Look, here is what I do before my W visits if I have the time. I run to the gym, workout hard to relax my muscles and mind, eat a good meal and then relax. Give it a try. I find it helps. Before, I would just be a ball of nerves. Now, I can cope.

Good luck!!!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...