Deja vu seems a lot different this time around...

[FellOnBlackDays]

MJ,
Denver is right, my man. You have tried quite a bit for some time and nothing is working. Trying more of the same will only get you more of the same. If she wants you to leave, leave. What do you have to lose? You already seem completely convinced it is over, so why not try something else? Role the dice. You never know what time apart will do. Could it possibly seal your doom? Yes, that is a possibility. Could it possibly cause her to re-evaluate your sitch and start thinking more clearly? Yes, also a possibility. Just give it some thought.

Also, stop with the stand-off. Let me give you a personal example of how I screwed up so you can benefit from it. When my W and I started having trouble, we started doing the same crap. My office is upstairs. For years, she would come home, run up the stairs and kiss me. When she started struggling with our R, the visits to my office stopped. Like a dumbass, what did I do? Get offended and the stand-off began. She would come home, not say anything to me, I would pout up in my office and neither one of us would budge or acknowledge the other. Guess what? Six weeks later, she moved out!!!

I talked to my MC about this. He said that when she wouldn't come up stairs, I should have gone downstairs and said hello. That is what she was looking for. She wanted me to take the time to acknowledge her. But, instead, I sat up there like an idiot trying to prove a point. Now, I live in my house alone. Get my message. Do something different. Next time she comes home and you are in your basement, go upstairs and greet her. You don't have to kiss her *ss, just go up and say hello with a smile. If she craps on you, so what! Do it again the next day and the next. Eventually, she will have a good day and she will come home to your greeting and you will have a nice moment that might last.

MJ, I don't know it all. Actually, I don't know sh*t. But I do know this, I have made these dumb mistakes long before you and I do know how it can end. Don't let my experience go to waste. Do it. If she doesn't respond, so what. At least you can walk away knowing you tried. I wish I would have. If I had, you may never have met me...

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD