After reviewing your posts, I have decided to change course. I will not "prohibit" her from attending any of these events. My decision does go directly against my goal of trying to save my marriage. And, it does put me in a tough spot with my future SIL and brother. My actions caused my brother to have to choose between his future bride and his brother. That was wrong of me. Team, I apologize to all for my actions. I was wrong and that is why I come here. To save myself from the idiot inside my head that destroyed my marriage.
I will call my future SIL tonight and inform her that I have had a change of heart and I want my W to be invited to everything. I guess I was letting my anger get the best of me.
No, I will not take a date. That would be just be a slap in the face if she does attend. If she doesn't attend, word would get back to her anyway. If she did that to me, I would be furious. I will go alone and try to put on a happy face for my brother on his special day. Yes, I will have to regulate my alcohol intake. Alcohol makes FOBD wear his heart on his sleeve...
Yes, I do also have to consider that she probably won't show anyway. That is a very distinct possibility. She feels uncomfortable enough right now. Now that I think about it, I doubt she will even show. She is being so f'ing selfish lately, she will probably bail on the entire thing. I am not sure her family will even show.
I have to go. W is actually calling. I will get back on here after dinner to vent a bit.
BITS are the glue that is holding my life together right now!!!
FOBD
Me: 39 W: 36 T: 15 yrs M: 9 yrs S: 09/10
So you can get on with your search, baby And I can get on with mine And maybe someday we will find, That it wasn't really wasted time...
