But what about Pickle? Are you willing to stay in a loveless M and take her snide remarks until the kids grow up and leave home?
Like water off a ducks back. That stuff can only hurt me, if I let it.
It wont be a loveless M technically; we'll be divorced. And I told her if OM wasn't 500 miles away we'd definately have to seperate. If she goes to see him, does it make a difference in the grand scheme, if she lives at home or down the street (that's where the condo is)? I don't control that.
I would prefer to DB with her gone, but I am willing for the sake of my delicate son to endure her presence for a while. I don't expect it to be long before S12 grows into a teenager and out of mom's apron. She really is a good mother.
Whatever she chooses, now that I've let it go, gives me a feeling of relief and detachment, because I've put it back on her. She's still conflicted, lost, in another world. In hindsight, pressing for the boundery was putting a tremendous strain on me personally, and things got out of hand ugly. It wont be all smooth sailing, but I am growing stronger within. I can do this.
With all that said, I have a feeling she wants the condo, so whatever.
Me 53 XW 50 M 18 Years +2 S14 D19 Bomb 10-24-10 Served 1-27-11 Mediate 4-21-11 Civil D Final 6-2-11 No church anullment "A man is not finished when he is defeated, he is finished when he quits."
