I haven't done everything wrong...

[islander]

Well, I am seriously thinking on canceling our lunch. The more I think about it I feel like she is setting me up for something. And the Place she wanted to have lunch at, there is mo way we could even have a conversation. For all I know she is planning on giving me papers. I may tell her to grab some food and brin it to the house. Up to her if she wants to or not.

And you guys are going to hit me with 2x4s repeatedly for this....I think that if and when we do meet, I will let her take the lead and see where it goes. But, I am going to tell her that if she doesnt want to work on our marriage, there is no point in being friends. I will say it better than that, and tell her i do not want a divorce, i love her and am committed to her and our M and family. I will tell her that I am willing to do whatever it takes to work on our marriage, but that I am willing to walk away with nothing.

Here is why. I believe that I am in the after the LRT stage. She is living with OM. I have a limited amount of time. The only connection we really have is our house. Once I sells, there is nothing tying us together. (I have not put it up for sale yet). She implied the other day I should sell the house, then see what happens with us. This is no doubt a set up.

My W began her PA while I was putting my life on the line in the middle of the night, and did so in my house. I can forgive her, but I will In no way conti he to enable what she is doing.

I know my W very well, and she is attempting to put me in the "friend zone" to make this easier for her to move on. In her fantasy world of cake eating, she will have her R win OM and still have me as a friend and shoulder to cry on. I have seen her do this with her XH. I am not going down the same road. It will be better for her to see that now rather than later. Maybe it will give her the opportunity to see what she is doing. I believe this is my last chance. If I wait to long it will not work.
This would be different if she were not in a PA, but it is even worse bc she is livin with OM.