Relationship Discussions - When is ok?

[Sad_but_happy]

Bolt,
My W IS afraid of failing. But I told her that she can't fail. I told her the reason she can't fail is because I will not give up on her/us.

I have learned that women need security. I believe that security and saftey are right up there with love and attention. My W stopped feeling safe with me. She didn't feel supported. And now she does. And she always will.

The one thing SHE had to do in order for me to move forward is give up EA with OM. Not doing that was a deal breaker. Cold turkey! Do it or leave. That was my way. Everyone has their own way.

I have been reading your sitch Bolt. You're doing some great work! Isn't it funny that all this happens between the ages of 37-45 (for the most part)... Human nature is crazy!