What I would do about her moving out is - ONLY in the MC - say that it hurts you that she is moving out but you totally understand and support her decision. It's not what you want but you realize that she needs space and time to figure out what she wants to do.
And basically leave it at that. You are supporting her and agreeing with her - she may not see that coming and it could play to your benefit.
That also proves to her that you are changing not that you don't love her anymore but that you are giving her something that she feels that she needs. That's huge, dude.
make sense?
I hear you. I have been telling her that for the last seven weeks (including the six weeks previous to the discovery of the affair).
I tell her all of the time that I will remain patient while you are away and allow you to discover herself.
Before the discovery, it was to the OW's place that she was getting her space. At least now, it is at her brother's down the street.
I will bring it up tonight that I will continue to love and support her and remain patient.
I also need to get rid of this defense she is having about me acting kindly as some kind of mind game. I will talk about that in MC as well. My intentions are true. Maybe she is still in shock or maybe she simply does not care, but a consistent positive attitude towards her and ouw son can only does positive things.
Me - 33 W - 33 S - 9 months M - 3 years T - 5.5 years Bomb - 12/14/10 ILYBNILWY PA discovered - 1/18/11 PA began - 3/22/10 Separated
