Relationship Discussions - When is ok?

[Sad_but_happy]

S2D,
I don't post often anymore but I read every day. Your W is testing you. She doesn't know she is testing you but she is. I had a MC session with W yesterday. W and I are piecing and it is going very well. When the MC asked how things were going W said "GREAT" emphatically with a big smile in a very cute and animated tone...

Now let me tell you something SHE said that really opened my eyes. Keep in mind that she sees all the changes I've made and loves the new me. This new me is loving and patient and kind and supportive. And when asked from MC what she was afraid of she stated,

"I'm afraid I will fail."

How interesting is that? You know what happens in the WAS head once they are convinced that the changes YOU make are real? They worry if they can live up to the person YOU are! They worry if they can please YOU as much as you are pleasing THEM!

What your W said is very telling. She sees the changes BUT she is afraid to get burned. Keep it up so she is convinced of the changes and she too will fear "failing" you...

I will tell you that my W said all those same hurtful things you are hearing. Things like:

"We are no longer a couple."

"I am not in love with you."

"We never really connected."


And now things are VERY different with W and I.

Things CAN turn around! Things CAN be better! Keep going!