Never really thought of that Punchy. Hmmmm.

The couple times it's come up it just makes me sick to my stomach and I think about how frustrating the sitch is...

I guess at some point I will need to change to an accepting approach anyways if I want things to workout for the best for everyone.

It's just so hard because inside it hurts, and I worry that with her stubborness if I start to "act accepting" it's just going to make it easier to leave - because then she'll no longer feel like anyone is being hurt.

Also, we talked numerous times about how important it is for us to have a good R regardless of our relationship status as we have 3 D's that we need to raise "together" for at least the next 16-18 years.

Her resolve to seperate/D just seems to strengthen everyday, and I worry WHEN...not if she will find someone else to support her emotional needs.

Thanks for the advice Punchy.

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SIC

Me - 34
W - 33
M - 8 years
T - 15 years
D7, D5, D2
Bomb Nov 10/2010 "I'm not happy and INILWY"
W Staying for the kids Mar 13/2011