“Why would you assume you might offend me? If you do offend me.. why would that really matter?”
I used the wrong verbiage. I shouldn’t have said offend. I should have said hurt you further.
“I look at your post count and really wonder.. if you read it. But.. I "see" your homework.”
I am trying to shut up and learn. I have read for hours and hours.
“I have not in a long time. Mostly because I just don't "feel" it anymore. She can't seem to "see" that the things I am doing indicate that she is beautiful. My actions never seem to be enough.”
I guess my point is that she may need words and not actions. This may be something that she needs from you and doesn’t even know. Many people don’t themselves very well. It’s easy to point out the “stuff” another person is or isn’t doing. It may be harder for her to admit that she needs to be flattered. It makes one sound shallow, but most people love to hear it. It feels good. I just know that most of my girlfriends would get very wistful when they would see the way my h spoke to me.
“Yes. Well.. she is not competing with a 20 year old.. who has never had kids. She is competing with someone who has clothes on and is not just laying there naked saying "take me". Again.. I feel like I have made this clear with her. She got all dressed up to go out with the OM. I will assume he got to take it off. That<<<< Kills me.”
It would kill me too.
“But.. I can say I have done the things that she has asked me to do. We were having a discussion the other night about this exact thing. She was telling me about all my lacking and how I am not doing right. So I asked her when was the last time she made me "feel" good? Even looking back over the past 4ish years.. she had to say I can't think of a time. If I was playing the WAS card.. I have done alot. She has done nothing.”
Could she be in MLC? Some of what you say she is doing is all over the place.
Wish you well, FG. I read through all of the posts between you and smartcookie. You made me take a very hard look at myself and things I needed to fix that I didn’t even know where there. You have helped many people here and you didn’t even know it. I’ve enjoyed your honesty, the way you respond and make people think.
