No FOBD, that new info doesn't change my opinion. I still think that you should just stay out of it, let your Bro/SIL and Sis/BIL decide who they will or won't invite. And let your W decide whether or not she will show up if she is invited.

I want to add in response to someone else's post re this issue that I do NOT think that you should take a date if your W is going to be at either of these weddings. There is nothing wrong with dancing with the bridesmaids or whatever, but taking a date would just be a slap in the face and not in line with your goals of getting your W back.

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce