WOW! Team, let me start by saying thank you for all the wonderful and well thought out responses. This is why I love this forum. Everyone, please give yourselves "a hand." You guys are the lifeline and support I needed right now!!!

I have carefully read all of your responses and I am very torn now. Last night as I wrote the post, I had my mind made up. But some of your points are very compelling and really made me think. Mind mind is full of new questions that I have to consider now. I am actually happy about that. Now that I have gone back and read my post from last night, I realize I had a huge amount of "venom" in there. It amazes me how that can creep in there and we don't even see it slipping in...

I am at work today and can't stay on here long. But, I will spend the rest of the day thinking this over now that the subject is "bathed in a new light." I will get back to everyone tonight with my thoughts from today.

But, before I part, here is an interesting wrinkle that I forgot to include last night. My IL's are invited to both ceremonies. Our families were very close and they were invited. My MIL does beautiful calligraphy. Her wedding gift to my brother was to do all the invitations at no charge. So, of course, they are invited to the wedding. Not to mention, my brother also has season tickets with my FIL and I to the local NFL team. My brother and FIL have been friends for years. So, it was automatic that my brother invited my IL's. Now, I have that whole mess to deal with. Does that information change things for any of you? Just wondering?

Once again, THANK YOU! I can't tell you guys how much this has helped!!!

BITS truly never walk alone!!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...