As the Bolt Turns

[Bolt]

I need to keep posting not only to offer hope but so I won't rest on my laurels and slide back. Hope everyone understands

PLUS, it may give a blue print on what can work.

I feel that I'm going into the "pursuing" phase where it's ok to do it. I feel that I'm wooing my W back and I have to tell you guys, it feels pretty good. I'm getting the warm feelings when I see her and when I talk to her. I'm so attracted to her right now it's pretty awesome.

She was doing the Michael Jackson Experience on the WII with the Ds and I couldn't take my eyes off her. My girl has moves! I told her that and said I didn't know she could move like that. She told me she was afraid to do that before because she thought I would criticize her.

MAN, am I glad I've been changing for the better. What woman would want to be around that kind of man?

One other great thing happened. She got super close with me because I helped nurse her back to health the other day. She's been feeling super and definitely has the load of the world off her shoulders. We had a great day at church (just her and I) - walked holding hands to church - she put her arm around mine like she did in the past - all great things.

After, I pulled close to her in the kitchen and said, I'm so lucky to have you as my wife. She almost cried and said, I'm so lucky to have you, the new "bolt" as my husband.

Yeah, I would say I felt pretty good. She's starting to let those good feelings back in. Still no ILY but that's fine right now. I'm taking the little (and not so little) things to heart.

One minor thing - for the guys to look for when you talk to your W - LOOK at her when she's talking, either to you or a group of people. We had a few friends over for the Super Bowl yesterday and were all chatting. W was at one end of the huge couch and I was at the other. Every time she chatted, I would show her my full attention (football be damned!) and you know what? She really only looked at me when she was talking. You know when you have that eye contact where neither one of you pulls away? That was happening all game.

I know that may seem minor but I truly feel that it meant a TON to her. I was paying attention to her EVEN when something I was truly interested in was going on. I know that will pay back.

The funny thing is that I WANTED to be engaged with her that way. That's the new bolt

anyway, I hope to give more encouragement and hope to all of us out there who are struggling. To see where I was just 2 short months ago compared to where I am now is truly astounding but I'm not done.

It's a marathon not a sprint, right?