I think my L is trying to cover up her faux pas. It won't work with me. I really am angry at her and am keeping my distance until I AM READY otherwise.
I do not have a court deadline right now that is crucial. We have until mid-April sometime to make a move either way. I am going to play this out a bit.
H seems to be changing somehow. He is calling me quite a bit. He is opening up more and more daily as to his activities and whereabouts and contacts. I do see a huge reserved side still....you all know the "arms length" scenario....I still feel it.
He has asked me to transfer money twice in the past 3 weeks from the company into our account. I know for a fact that he has hoarded the money the company owes us. This is a huge turning point that he is sharing without being forced to.
H spent the day with us on Wednesday it was nice. It really feels like a family when he is here with son and I. I made a big breakfast and H was happy with that. He made a comment like "when you want something to eat around here all you got to do is ask" I took it well since I know he isn't doing good diet wise on his own (a typical supper for H would be beef jerky and peanuts) and I always have plenty of good food....I like to cook and that is one thing that has helped in our situation is the availability of my cooking. I have always accommodated him with food when he has been in need of sustenance even with the chit that has gone on.
Son had an issue with his snowmobile this week and H was fairly helpful to son. I can't say he tried really hard to help son cause the problem occurred last Sunday and I went and got the new part and the part has not been installed and H HAS had the time. I have to stay out of it, I did what I could to remedy the situation and I am not much of a mechanic.
About dismissing, in a conversation H actually made the suggestion. I said something and he really related to my words. I said "I find it really hard to understand how two people like us who love each other deeply and have so much in common would even consider a divorce let alone get one." H said he wondered the same and then admitted that the last time we dismissed the action he now knows he didn't even try one little bit to work on the marriage and a reconcilement. he went on to state that he felt sorry for that. I validated his words but did not drag out the conversation with all the whys and what-fors.
We are not really any further ahead from the past 3-4 weeks. While things appear better they are far from better if you know what I mean.
H is still with OW. I have no idea as to the status of that. I assume he is still content with her around, he did say he was not all that happy but didn't expel on that further. I didn't push the conversation. I can only hope that he will come to his senses. I do know that they do not spend a lot of time together. I have a few bird dogs in town
That's all for now....
Thanks for the rambling opportunity, warm hugs to you all.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
