2step - this is the patience part that stinks. You HAVE to stay strong here. You will be there for her WHEN she needs you. This is definitely where the rubber hits the road.
I look at this way. When she gets in contact with you, just listen and keep the comments rather short. If you get the feeling that she's asking a ton, come here and talk to us!
After that, you will know a lot more on whether to start convos with her. I think staying dark right now is the right thing. It's not forever, man. BUT it is important to stay the course.
m 40 w 38 married 15 together 18 d11, d8 bomb 12/19/10 2nd bomb 3/30/11 COMPLETELY DONE