Shine on you crazy diamond...

[ScaredinCanada]

Through all of this WE are assuming that FOBD's W actually WANTS to go.

For my brothers wedding that was on NYE, my W kept telling me that she didn't want to go - that it would be too hard for her. This in my mind, made it important that she DID come so she couldn't avoid some of the discomfort of the sitch.

In the end I don't think it did either of us any good. My W didn't enjoy being there, and it was hard for me to DB as I was feeling sorry for her and it made me think about our wedding and all of the fun times we've had together at the weddings we attended.

In the end I didn't enjoy the night nearly as much as I should have because of the pain I felt with the akwardness of the sitch.

I'm not saying this is exactly the same as it will go in your sitch, but I just know in my case that while I try to detach and DB my W has all of the control in sitch. I have control over myself and myself only.

I'm starting to ramble now.

Sorry FOBD, I wish all the best in your decision.

What are the odds that your W doesn't want to attend the weddings?

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