I bet H feels the live in situation will be only "temporary" and the OW has other ideas, as they usually do.
IMO, this will bring about more turmoil to your H. OW is moving in with him and WITH her son...OMG the results of that are endless. I believe they are already on separate pages with the idea so this will be very interesting for sure.
H will get to see her and her son's true colors 24/7 not just the phony image she portrays in the limited time they are in contact now.
It is great that H wants to see D's swim competition in April. Your D deserves to have his support. I once read that they maintain connection to the children to maintain connection with us. When there has been an estrangement, they also reconnect with the children to reconnect with us.
Very good that H has been offered a job locally. I hope he takes it and stops looking further as this will settle one issue in his life.
Cas, I'm not sure how long your H has been with this OW. I know it doesn't matter since it is still a blow to hear this kind of news. Let's hope it's more of a thought and will not actually become reality.
I think most affairs are for a long duration (1.5 years plus). It takes a while for the shine to wear off. This is a great step in that direction, moving in together will be a real eye opening experience. I think it will be the beginning of the end of this one. One reason come to mind, your H isn't resolved with his issues about you and his family.
Have a good week Cas, I know this is really hard.
Sanderika
ME48/H48MLC T 33y M 28y S16 OW 8/7/05 Bomb 8/16/05 Sep 9/05 H f'd D 10/3/08 D pp'd 1/20/09,7/24/09,12/4/09 D dismissed 2/5/10 H served me D papers again 9/4/10 D dismissed 9/26/11
