ouch... $45k?! Yes, idiot.

I think that mentioning a possible visit is a good idea IF it seems to be the right time. Let your instinct guide you... but not fear.

BITS
Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce