Wow, I can sense the strong Kelli is back again. That is good.
I think your H is glad that you have forgiven him. He did not believe it initially. Now he is relieved and wants to work on your R. I think it is the best if your H changes job. He will be happier, and also not seeing the ow again. Out of sight, out of mind.
The om's W is now starts calling my W at home. The om has no intention of moving out or leaving his W. I hope my W realizes that the om is not worth the trouble.
I am just wondering whether it is good idea to ask my W to go to Retro weekend. Last Aug we have cancelled it as I saw no point since my W decided to move out. My W is still saying that she wants to move out in May, when our rental property is free. But I am not sure about her real intention.
Sorry to post on your thread, Kelli -- Raindeer -- I posted about the retrouvaille weekend I just finished over in newcomers if you want to see what I had to say about it. I'd encourage you to go if she's willing. I saw some pretty amazing turnarounds in couples.
I am constantly amazed at your sitch. There was a time last spring that I wouldn't have given 2 cents that your M would work out....but look at you now!!
In thinking back over your past year, I am beginning to get a sense of how you were able to stand up for yourself and son, but yet give H the unconditional love and understanding that he needed. That is hard one to do.
Heard from a friend today. Her H and mine have been friends for ages. Last year, her H hit MLC, and left home. She's off to see a lawyer next week, and asked what she should ask. What do I say? I want to tell her H to screw his head back on, but I can't.
H has a job interview this afternoon. He really wants out of where he's working now. Since OW is working there, I want him to switch careers too. Hopefully, this can happen.
Yes, I second that! Having a job you're unhappy in makes every part of your life seem intolerable. A new job would bring him new challenges, a fresh start, and no more seeing OW!! Keeping my fingers crossed...
