I've been reading so much, but probably should have been posting. I really am confused how to interact with H, if at all.
H moved out 11/19. Prior to Christmas, I contacted H several times a week. Since then, I've pretty much gone dark, other than telling him I've left mail in his door or asking him to help with a portion of the bills.
I'm wondering if going dark has helped. For a period of time, he didn't respond to my calls or texts.
In early January I asked him to help with 50% of some expenses. He was not happy about it. A week later I stopped by his place with mail, and he gave me the money.
Last week I needed him to take out the animals on his way to work as I was working late. 12 hours after I'd texted him, there was no response. I texted that I'd made other arrangements. He texted back that he could do it, he just hadn't responded. Oh well.
My mother fell and needed surgery Tuesday, while we were in the midst of the snow storm. I let him and our kids know via text when she was having surgery. He contacted D later to see how I was doing. Later that night I asked him about street conditions in case I needed to get back to the hospital. He actually called to say he would drive me to the hospital if there was an emergency.
The next day I spent 3 hours shoveling out the drive so D could get to work and I could get to hospital. He showed up later in the day unannounced. He never said why he was here, although I suspect he thought I would need him to shovel. Before leaving he asked what he owed this month.
Is this typical behavior for WAH/MLCer? Or do you think this is a response to me going dark?
