Shaves,
Guilt is the first mental response that a WAS has to face. My W confessed to me a few weeks ago that she was seeing a C right after we S'ed and it was because she could not deal with the guilt. That is more than likely what is driving her actions right now regarding her need for you to reassure her. Please keep in mind, what you do when she begs for reassurance is your decision. She is the one leaving and you technically, "don't owe her anything." I don't see any reason why you should relieve her of her guilt. My W tried the same stuff with me. I smiled politely and left the subject alone. You might want to let her "twist in the wind" for some time. You didn't give her this guilt and you don't have to be the one to help her with it.

When my W cried and told me she was struggling with the guilt of leaving, I smiled and replied, "I don't think I can help you with that." I wasn't an *ss about it, but I was not going to "carry the cross" for her. Just keep that in mind.

As for the cell phone thing, I am sorry to have to say this, but she is up to something. TJ is correct. Those who have nothing to hide will hide nothing. You are going to have to be the one to decide whether or not you want to see what is on that phone. Frankly, it is probably nothing good and you should probably leave that alone. That is a "Pandora's Box," my friend, and you will not be able to control what comes out of it once you open it... Just keep that in mind also.

Hold it together. You can do this!

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...