Navy,
Unfortunately, there is NO way off right now. That is the bad news. The good news is that you can do certain things to make sure that you take some of the sting out of this mess. Do what you can to enjoy you time with your children. It might be better to just shelter them from this right now as best as you can. Sounds like your WAS is still in the very early stages. At this point, they can be quite mean and very, very selfish. They are not worried about anyone and anything other than their escape plan. So, you take the initiative. You be the one to take care of the family while you can. Keep DBing her and keep your head up. Yes, that plane ride home is going to be rough, but if you made it through OCS, you can make it through this.

Hang in there, my man. You have to be as strong as you can while she is in the horrible phase. There are better days ahead. You just can't see them right now because there is so much mess in your head.

BITS never walk alone!

FOBD

Me: 39
W: 36
T: 15 yrs
M: 9 yrs
S: 09/10

So you can get on with your search, baby
And I can get on with mine
And maybe someday we will find,
That it wasn't really wasted time...