Still on the border of Neverland

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Thanks, Grace. It's a comfort to know there is someone here who understands how much we worry about our Ds, no matter what their ages.

I need some advice. I usually trust my instincts, as they have served me well in the past, but I'm still not sure on this one. I know what I feel is the right thing to do, but I don't know if it is also the good thing to do. The difference has nothing to do with how H might act or react to me, but more how it might affect him.

I am fortunate to work part-time for an organization that provides counseling and other support services to youth and families, and values the mental health of its employees as well. It has recently contracted with a counseling group to provide unlimited services to all of its employees and their families at an extremely modest annual fee.

I feel, on the one hand, that it is my moral obligation to let H know that this is a benefit available to him. OTOH, although H claims to have seen a counselor twice during the 6 months after our S, he steadfastly refused to go with me for years before that when I asked. I have drafted, but not sent, an email with just the facts. I am torn between doing something I think is right and true to me, and doing something that may put H on the defensive.

Does my sense of obligation trump his (potential) feelings? I'm leaning towards doing what I feel is right, and letting him deal with whatever that brings up, but thought I'd toss it out here for comment. What do you all think?