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It seems to me that you do not trust your W after the way she has behaved.

Mr. Bond is right on with that.

Was she contrite about the A at all?

If she wants the M she should understand that she has broken the trust and want to bend over backwards to rebuild it.

Become completely transparent about her actions and whereabouts.

Disapearing at a party doesn't do that for me.

If she is unwilling to understand that, then you still have a BIG problem.

IMO.

Whatever it was that drove her to the A is still present and she feels vindicated for her behavior for it.

What are her complaints against you. The ones that sting?

My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am