True I'm gonna be upfront. I'm tired, I'm frustrated, confused, and to me, we're as good as divorced. We're certainly living that way.
He gets to live the life of a single, carefree man, and I've got the responsibility and drudgery that he left behind.
I know how you feel.
Is it his fault you feel that way? Whose feelings are they?
Originally Posted By: Scylla
AS to what love would say...I haven't a clue. I don't know which way to jump. Is it loving to let myself be treated as a daycare worker? Is it loving to let a situation continue where he's comfortable and I am in acute discomfort? Is it loving to do DBing at all? Is it loving to myself to let this situation continue any longer than it has to?
I am going to be upfront with you too.
Everything up there describes what your H is doing to you.
Your cheeseless tunnel is looking at this as if you are a victim of someone's bad behavior and poor choices.
You can move on from that but you will still see yourself that way unless you choose differently.
A funny thing happens the longer you endure pain...
you either give up or
You find what you are seeking through the suffering.
Have you found your answer yet?
Is the answer for you that your H treats you badly, and is not giving you what you want right now
... and you are finally ready to tell him to pee up a rope?
Are you going to let someone make choices for you?
Because this all your choice. If you are going to suffer don't do it for H. He doesn't give sh!t right now.
Why should you?
We don't die from a snake bite, we die from the venom.
My goal is to some day be the person my dog thinks I am
