I just haven't been on this site in a while. Pretty busy with work & all. Well, I wound up not having Christmas with the new guy. He kept saying we would do it after Christmas but we never did. He is very mysterious & it worrys me a lot! I just don't trust him yet, I don't know if it is because of what I went thru with my ex or if it is just him. He won't friend me on facebook, he told me that I could go to his wall if I wanted, it was open so of course I have. There are lots of women friends on there! Some claim they are seeing him, so I had a meltdown a few weeks ago & told him not to come over. But he came anyway, he told me that woman was a psycho & would try to break up any relationship that he had with anyone, he used to date her a while back. I don't know if he is telling me the complete truth or not but right now all I can do is believe him. He travels so much that we don't see each other that often but he wants to meet my parents & he is ready for me to meet his family. We'll see. Oh yes, another thing I forgot to mention, he said the "L" word!!! Yes, he told me he loved me. SCARY!!! Of course I said it back because I'm falling for this guy, but like I said, I'm just trying to be careful. We are supposed to go to a super bowl party tomorrow so I will meet some of his friends, bad thing his ex wife might be there because it is a neighborhood where he used to live & I think she still lives there, so we will see. He wanted me to go get us some football jersey's alike. My ex never wanted us to dress alike!! I'm actually going to meet him at his house because where the party is it's closer to where he lives. First time I'm seeing his house. He wants me to take Baked Spaghetti, I've never made it before!! So, I'm a little nervous about it, he told him how to do it & then I did find a recipe so I don't know how this is going to turn out. I'm also taking a Cherry Cream Cheese Pie that he loves!
So, I'm very nervous about this relationship, he talks future like going to a family reunion with me this summer, us taking a vacation together this summer, us going to NY some time, he says he is crazy about me, he is not in this to hurt me & he said he is not going anywhere but he just scares me to death! I guess just take one day at a time & pray about it.
I hope all of you are having a wonderful new year & things are looking up for you!
I just haven't had as much time to get on this site to read what has been happening with everyone, I sure want to catch up but I think of each & everyone of you all the time!!!
No word from the ex or ow, I do know she is in the US right now but I'm not sure ex got to come. I just hope I don't hear from them!!
Yes, he wanted me to make the baked spaghetti! He told me how to make it!! Since he raised his twin girls I guess he had to learn to cook, but he is out of town until in the morning & wouldn't have time to cook anything so I'm cooking!! I made him this Cherry Cream Cheese pie once & now that is all he asked me to make, I told him he was going to turn into one! ha ha
He is very mysterious! I don't know what to make of it either!! He travels a lot with work & being in the music biz a lot of girls run after him. He has told me before that he just says thanks but no thanks but I still don't know for sure! He scares me that is for sure! I'm trying to be careful but after all that I went thru & now someone seems to love me again, it's hard! I'm trying to think with my head & not my heart but that is not going well!!
Glad you updated. I've been thinking about you and wondering how you've been!
It's good to hear that you're having fun. Also good that you're being careful and really getting to know the new guy.
Well, one thing if his XW is at the party you will get an idea of what his R with her is like post divorce. Just go and have fun and keep your ears open. You might hear some interesting things!
Hi NLT! I haven't posted to your thread in a couple of years, but do follow. I just wanted to comment on the FB friend issue ... why would NG allow a psycho as a friend, and not you who he perports to be in love with? You are scared, he is mysterious .... follow your gut, I say, and not commit to anything until you know him, his friends, his family, been on some trips with him, on his FB as a friend, and anything else that will allow you to be able to trust him. You've been through enough. Love is one thing, trust another. I still love my H, but don't trust him one bit, but he thinks i should since we are together now ... he also travels a lot, so who knows what he is doing.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim
N, I would be very leery of this guy. Sounds to me like he's got a hidden agenda and you are not part of it. He says the right things to hook you in and then he leaves you hanging. My radar is up on this one.
N, you've been through a lot...it's okay to date, but I wouldn't invest a lot in this guy...he's all over the map and way too mysterious, i.e., it's almost like he's hiding something.
I do hope you are doing okay otherwise. Please be careful.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
He scares me that is for sure! I'm trying to be careful but after all that I went thru & now someone seems to love me again, it's hard! I'm trying to think with my head & not my heart but that is not going well!!
Good to think with your head...use your intuition!!!
Thanks for visiting my thread! Take good care of yourself!!
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Thank you all so much for the advice!! The party went well, but he did have to leave & go to Atlanta for a meeting this morning. He didn't know about it until yesterday morning before the game. His ex did not show up but at least I did meet some of his friends. They said that is him going to work all the time. I'm doing my best to be cautious. My radar is up for sure. But, just went I'm doubting him, he calls tonight. He is not feeling well, says he is still in Atlanta & will be back tomorrow. He is not good about calling so it was a surprise. I'm trying to back off a bit b/c I'm very scared! I do feel he is hiding something, but this guy that lives with him who is also is assistant told me yesterday that he shoots straight from the hip & tells the truth whether people like to hear it or not, so I still don't know b/c I feel he has lied to me before.
I know my ex's ow is in the US now, I'm not so sure he is tho. I thought he would be with her but from what I can understand he is not right now. All very strange!!
Thank you all for being here for me. I'll keep you posted.
