My condolences on the passing of your MIL. Your h will have great difficulty getting it together to attend the funeral. He's been living in la la land a long time and now reality has hit home w/the passing of his mother. I do hope that he and his father can talk at some point.
I'm also sorry to read about your job and your home. You've had far more than your fair share of hardship over the years. I do hope that things will turn around for you very soon. I am keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
