Newbie- Very Lost- Not Sure where to start

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Thanks for the feedback, after the reading I have done about Retrovaille, I would love to do it, i am just petrified to even approach her with it... I am struggling really bad with where we are?? I can't seem to figure out if we are piecing or what? She is still totally unreceptive to anything affectionate at all. She wanted me to leave .. then tells me to sleep on the couch and she sleeps on the other couch right next to me.. We are running the "business" of our family in perfect sync, cooking, cleaning, shopping, doing things with our boys. At what point do I consider this to be "piecing" back together? She still won't talk about us.. doesn't bring it up, but, now i am afraid to, based on the last reactions, as soon as i do, she says we need to D? So, do I just continue in "limbo" as we are? Anyone share a similar experience?