N, I would be very leery of this guy. Sounds to me like he's got a hidden agenda and you are not part of it. He says the right things to hook you in and then he leaves you hanging. My radar is up on this one.
N, you've been through a lot...it's okay to date, but I wouldn't invest a lot in this guy...he's all over the map and way too mysterious, i.e., it's almost like he's hiding something.
I do hope you are doing okay otherwise. Please be careful.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
