The story of my mom and dad is long. My dad separated from my stepmom for about a year some years back. Mom invited to the house for all the holidays and checked up on him to make sure that he was ok.
I, obviously, have been talking to my parents a lot over the last couple of months about my situation. My dad, in almost every conversation, admits regret about divorcing my mom. My mom says I just wish he had shown me any appreciation (she was the one who ended it). But they never stopped loving eachother and taking care of eachother (once my dad had finally got help for his alcoholism).
Anyway, I am doing ok. I thought it would be different when my H left than it is. I thought that we would cut the amount of contact, but I think we're talking more than he was living here. He calls a lot. We text a lot.
He was very conflicted about leaving and he looked liked someone shot his best friend. When he told me that he was leaving last week, he said it was probably over but didn't decide to file for divorce yet. When I saw the pain he was in about leaving, I couldn't take it. I know that I scared him when I told him that I needed him to leave. I asked him to call before he came here anymore. I told him that I didn't want to sound mean, but that I needed my space also.
***DB Alert*** I know I didn't follow the rules:
So, before leaving, I told him that he has to stop thinking that this is the end. I told him that we needed a break from one another. I said that we need to think about things on our own and hopefully stop blaming eachother for everything. I said that hopefully we learn some things and learn different ways to communicate and things will get better between us. He said, "I like that thinking."
So I'm not sure if it was good or bad, but he certainly called several times last night after he left. Of course, the girlfriend doesn't get into town until the 14th. So, I'm curious how things go. Truth is, though, I still have no solid proof of a relationship. Circumstantial evidence is all I have. Meaning, I wouldn't win in criminal court, but I have a shot in civil court
Hugs to you all. You really are the best friends I have right now. Many prayers and love to you all!
