I agree with Grocery on your question about contact the OM's W. I wouldn't. Always ask yourself what you hope to accomplish by any act that you are contemplating or any words that you are thinking of saying.

I know that going dark does not feel good, but it is necessary. Your W does need to miss you. She needs time to come to that point. Give it to her.

BITS
Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce