I have done everything wrong....

[islander]

Thanks for all of your advice. Going dark is the hardest thing I have done. I know that I could call W right now and we could probably have a decent conversation, but that is not what I want. I want my W and my M back. I want my W to miss me and realize what she is giving up, and a decent conversation is not going to make her feel anything for me. Sometimes she will call me for random things that she knows the answer to, or something trivial. But is never to tell me she made a mistake.

I don't want to completely alienate her. Going dark seems like walking a fine line. I just know that if I continue these conversations whenever she feels the need, I will never get anywhere. She will always be in control.

Denver, I know you are miles ahead of me. I hope to be in your sitch one day.

Grocery, as of right now, I am not going to send the letter. I will let my actions speak for me now, not my words. I also will not contact OM.

Do you have any thoughts on contacting OMs W, or should I just leave that alone and focus on myself. (this may have already been asked and answered, sorry).