It snowed yesterday, and is snowing today. I remember last year crowing with accomplishment when I plowed the drive myself. This year, I watched H work through in a snap with his plow truck. Another good memory!
So very glad he's back this winter - the snow, the broken septic pump, the frozen septic lines, the broken hot tub heater..... I don't ask him to deal with any of this, he just does, and I am grateful.
Compare to last year, you can see how much your R has improved. Keep on DBing. I am sure you will achieve what you ever wanted. Your H is definetely back to you, even without verbal assurance.
H found out about a new job opportunity today - back in uniform working Jr. ROTC. It's something he's kicked around in the past. Told him to go for it, was he up to working with young kids again? His reply:
Quote: Yea I would be up for it. This has been the goofiest time of my life. And yours too!
If your H takes that job and accepted, it would be the best thing for everybody. It means that he would not see the OW.
I wish I could find a suitable job for my W elsewhere. Everytime she works with the om, we have difficulty moving forward. Dr Harley's theory of absolute no contact is very right. Out of sight, out of mind.
This Saturday is valentine's day. I tried to get tickets to a concert - Terry Clark - but it was sold out. I love her CD "Pain to Kill". I found it when H was about out the door, and her lyrics hit home. Would like him to surprise me with something, but he most likely won't. But at least this year, I can celebrate the day.
Wish you have an enjoyable Valentine day with your H this Sat. You deserve it.
I won't organise anything this Sat. Just give my W space. She said she still can't accept my love, which indicates that she still has infatuation with the om. With secrecy and lies, it takes a long time for their infactuation to die down.
