Good grief man, you are constantly setting yourself up for abuse. As you indicated, telling her about the dream was a mistake. It made me cringe just reading about it, never mind having to listen to it like your wife did.
I have lots to learn to about the whole pursuing thing, but fishing for positive comments when you know none are there is self defeating. We need to present ourselves as being strong and confident, not weak and clingy. Show her that her actions are not affecting you, and that you are that strong, confident guy that works out at the gym.
Drop the "fishing" hobby and focus on being a great dad who also happens to be in great shape.
