Exactly the reason for going dark... that and also to give your W the time and space that she needs to do her own healing and realize how much she misses you. There are lots of reasons to go dark for a while. It's like a timeout. It worked for me.

How you doin FOBD?

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Denver

M 43
X 38
T 13
W moves out of home 11/2010
Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012
I request divorce 5/2012
W moves home 6/2012
Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015
I leave 3/2016
process of divorce