I'm afraid it's been to long between posts for anyone to respond, but I hope that's not the case.
I've spent the last several weeks reading the links posted by Cadet, and so many threads. I'm not sure where to begin, but will start w the WAS v. MLC.
My husband (and all his siblings) felt so much pressure from FIL to succeed either academically or athletically. When I read "Why they run", i could see my husband all through it. Over the last two years, he went through two job changes and we moved. I know he was depressed and he mentioned he hated his new job. But then I read Jack's WAS v. MLC. The ILYBNILWY bomb was in June, and at the same time he mentioned D. He agreed to stay for a while, and work on things, but not MC. In Sept we tried Marriage Max, but he didn't want to do some of the suggestions. Looking back, the EA began about Oct. In Nov he moved out while I was at work. H had his move planned to a T - kept a rental open to move into, opened a separate checking account and has his paycheck deposited there, scheduled a day off of work and had friends lined up to help him move. He took the new furniture and TV, and moved old furniture from storage into our living room for me to use.
Although MLC can last for so long, I'm fearful now that this WAH won't come back no matter what I try to do.
I so wish I'd found DR while he was still here instead of the other, that it could have been so helpful.
After he left, he still mentioned being willing to work on R. That's why I let him have the first couple chapters of DR. And we did a couple "dates" - wish I had those as do overs! He even came by a couple times after he moved out to do MM, but again it wasn't helpful.
