i feel your pain my parents are both infirm and as of late my mom has become worse and i feel like "when it rains it pours" and often ask myself "ok, what other wonderful thing awaits me today" but then i do get through the day. one breath at a time you will too hope you are ok and taking care of yourself
Thanks for all your support and concern! It means a lot.
Well... my dad's situation is really screwed up but that is a story in and of itself... Anyway, he has had a heart attack. They do not believe it was major, they do not believe he has a blockage, but they do not know why he had one. He has Crohn's Disease so that alway complicates everything. The Lord is looking out for him as He always is. Thanks so much for asking.
10 years ago, when my father first was diagnosed with Crohn's, he developed a perforated colon. Ultimately, he developed sepsis, which wasn't caught for nearly 24 hours (and only about 33% of people survive). He was on life support where he developed severe pneumonia. This was when we were all called to the hospital to say goodbye. The doctors felt he would not survive the night.
Now, my parents have been divorced for 35 years. My dad is long remarried and of course, his wife was at the hospital through all of this. But when the call was made to get to the hospital, my mom was there too. My mom and dad have this unconditional love for one another that is pretty unbelievable. She asked to see my father alone and proceeded into the ICU and sat with him for 30 minutes. My dad squeezed her hand at one point where he was not responding to anyone. My mother left my father's room, with tears in her eyes, she declared that he was going to make it, to not believe the doctors and that none of us were to leave him alone for the second. There was such conviction that my brother and I knew she knew more than the doctors. So, we stayed at the hospital all night (my mother as well) and all took turns sitting with him. By morning, my father had opened his eyes. The doctors came in and believed that the pneumonia that he'd been fighting for better than a week was starting to clear. It was a nasty time in our lives, my dad was there for over 4 months. But he made it. I tell you all that story, because I'll never forget the interaction between my mom and dad. I'll never forget that all those years later, their connection still existed. I'm sure on the surface those deep feelings seemed to have gone away for awhile. But it was a mirage because when the chips were down, those feelings rose right to the surface. Food for thought today...
I will continue to pray for him for him. Your parents have been M 35yrs? That is amazing. You know that has always been a dream of mine to love someone to reach that level of commitment with someone that you can share so much for so long. That is great! People see the finished product or they the see 35 yrs but what did it take to get there? What people don't see are the chapters in between that lead to this, why do some make it and some don't? Did they figure out something we didn't? Or did they pick the right partner?
Nope, they have been divorced 35 years and have that level of commitment to eachother. Weird, huh? Michele is right, this falling out love thing is crap.
Wow LIS. Thanks for sharing your dad's story. The level of attachment that still exists bw your mother and father brought tears to my eyes.
I really hope that things go okay for him in the coming days.
How are you doing?
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M 43 X 38 T 13 W moves out of home 11/2010 Roller coaster from hell 2/2011-5/2012 I request divorce 5/2012 W moves home 6/2012 Good time 7/2012 - 1/2015 I leave 3/2016 process of divorce
