It is a good idea to be conscious of that connection with H. I am sure you have an idea of what went wrong to start with, so be sure not to fall back into old habits.
If your H is anything like mine (and I think he is), you may never get the words you are looking for unless you outright ask the questions. If actions indeed do speak louder than words, maybe trust the actions for awhile longer.
Have you given any more thought to another retroville weekend, or some kind of marriage counseling .....just to help clear the air a little??
(Can you tell that I am green with envy at where you are??? )
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