I don't know, I think you're logic on going dark is spot on. In order to make the changes we need to make, we need to be ok with ourselves. Conversations with your wife are evoking some negative feelings with you and that is something you need to heal from before you subject yourself to more of it.
Frankly, I just understand. I guess this is why I'm not a complete mess that my husband left. Him being here was inflicting more pain than I could bear. Now that he's gone, there's a peace about me and I don't feel like a piece of crap every minute of every day.
I also am so proud of your brother for supporting you. That was probably very hard for him, but you deserved that support and I'm glad you got it.
I'm sorry to hear that your friend is having a rough time about his brother. I was wondering how he was doing. I'm very, very close with one of my brothers and I just don't know what I would do if I lost him. I don't know what I would do if lost any of them. You are such a good person, FOBD, for concentrating on others pain. It really does heal.
Anyway, I'm thinking about you and praying for you!!!
