Enjoying the "single" W-A-L-K (Faith 54)

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Third on the list: My Brother is about to finalize his D.

You might remember me talking about my Brother, his W and family, when I was going through my D. They were really good to me and I would spend a little time with them.

Well, a lot has happened since then.

(She had cheated on him years before, moved out, had a son by the OM, got back together with my brother and things had been okay, well somewhat okay. She was never really happy.)

Of course it came around again. She started acting unhappy, talking about splitting up, etc.... My brother talked to me for advice, got a L, started looking for apartments, and was ready to move on.

She saw that, decided she was losing him, and came back to her senses. The next thing I knew they were trying to buy a house (a new kind of shiny for her, since the old shiny was wearing off). It was crazy when the house they had was great. They had put a lot of work into it. I would have never moved.

It was then that I started seeing her pattern.

The new house fell through.

A couple weeks later, they went on a weekend trip up to the mountains for some "together time." They came back and within a week said they had found a new house and they were moving to the mountains in the western part of the state -- against my advice. They were really trying to save their marriage - and it seemed desperate!

Everyone in the family was irritated with the whole thing. I told them, and I told him...the repairs you did on the house, the new house...it's just a new kind of shiny. The shiny wore off and when this new shiny wears off, she will be unhappy again. I give it 2 years.

I would like to say I was wrong about that, but I wasn't.

In a little less than 2 years before that shiny wore off. They moved back here. Within a year of moving back, she found a new shiny and cheated on him again.

He finaly said enough! He moved in with me shortly after with his daughter. They lived here for a few months and then got their own place.

Within a month of him moving in with me, she had already dated a couple of guys, broke up with the guy she cheated with. Then she had a new guy move in with her. Wow! Meanwhile, the son, he is there with her through all of this. Poor little guy - lots of stories there.

That BF has since moved out. It's like a rotating door over there!!

They have been separated about 1.5 years now, and the D will be final in a few weeks.

My brother started dating someone else about a year ago, and it appears to be going really well. I really wished he had waited a little while before getting serious with someone, but guys seem to do that. Get right back on the horse.

With him I think he had left the M in his heart long before. So maybe leaving was just the last step to closure for him.

Either way, I am much slower than that...

Me? I want some time to stare at all the horses from a distance. Maybe walk up, talk to one, brush it, hop on, maybe a little trot, and then I jump back off again. LOL.

So who's crazy, men or women?